Q: Dating non-Christians?

Is it really against God to date non-Christians? I know that by dating a non-Christian, you are risking the chance to be influenced by them and pulled into the worldly ways, but aren't you also risking the chance to influence them in a better, more Godly-centered way? I know that many times even if you are able to get them to go to church regularly, some may argue that they are just going to church for the wrong reasons, but what if in the case that they do end up going to church for the right reasons? Wouldn't it be a good thing in that case since that non-Christian is learning more about God through you?

[Editor's Note: Please read this related post]

For a Christian, dating a non-Christian is unwise, and marrying one is NOT an option according to the Bible. Second Corinthians 6:14 tells us not to be “unequally yoked” with an unbeliever. The imagery is of two incompatible oxen sharing the same yoke. Instead of working together to pull the load, they would be working against each other. While this passage does not specifically mention marriage, it definitely has implications for marriage. The passage goes on to say that there is no harmony between Christ and Belial (Satan). There can be no spiritual harmony in a marriage between a Christian and a non-Christian. You have different lifestyles (Christ vs. world), loyalties (Christ vs. devil) and loves (Christ vs. idols). Paul goes on to remind believers that they are the dwelling place of the Holy Spirit, who inhabits their hearts at salvation (2 Corinthians 6:15-17). Because of that, they are to be separate from the world—in the world, but not of the world—and nowhere is that more important than in life’s most intimate relationship—marriage. 

The Bible also says, “Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character’ (1 Corinthians 15:33). Having any kind of intimate relationship with an unbeliever can quickly turn into something that is a hindrance to your walk with Christ. We are called to evangelize the lost, not to be intimate with them. There is nothing wrong with building quality friendships with unbelievers and we should. If you were dating an unbeliever, what would honestly be your priority - romance or winning a soul for Christ? From their perspective, what would honestly be their priority - romance, impressing you or something else?

If you were married to an unbeliever, how would the two of you cultivate a spiritual intimacy in your marriage? How could a quality marriage be built and maintained if you disagree on the most crucial issue in the universe—the Lord Jesus Christ? Clearly, the Bible tells us that God will bless those who are obedient to His Word and Will.


In addition to the biblical arguments above, consider the real possibility that the relationship could cause the Christian to backslide as you have already noted in your question. Non-Christians do not always live by Biblical standards, so the dating relationship can be big on temptations for the Christian. For example, a non-Christian may think that pre-marital sex, drinking, smoking, and lying are all acceptable behaviors in our present world. Your values as a follower of Christ should be very different, leading to a number of potential arguments. He or she may not understand that you need time to pray or read your Bible. They may also not be willing to go to church. The difference in these eternal values can be overwhelming and lead you down a path away from Christ.

So we first need to be clear about the purpose and motivation for dating according to God’s Word and plan for His children. Then we can more clearly understand God’s call for His people to share the God News of Christ with a world in need of a Savior. These matters are separate issues of obedience.

In summary then, it all comes down to who is your first love? Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us:

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.

A great book that I’ve read and recommended to others is called “The DIRT on Dating” by Hayley DiMarco. You can get this book from your local bookstore or Chapters at a reasonable price. If you like, give me a shout and I’ll lend you my copy! GREAT QUESTION! I KNOW MANY STUDENTS NEED TO HEAR ABOUT THIS ISSUE!

[Answered by Ray Lee, Summer Intern]

Q; Underage drinking?

I was invited to a high school party where there would be underage drinking taking place. As a Christian, I felt that it would be wrong to go to this party despite the fact that everyone there are my good friends. I know that it is not a sin to drink but a sin to be drunk. It is also sinful to break the law. Did I make the right decision?

Great Question! Let me try to answer your questions with three points …

1. Parties can be fun opportunities to get together with friends, meet new people, and to relax and enjoy one another’s company. As human beings, God designed us to be social creatures. We live in groups, work in groups, and socialize in groups. So when we desire to party, we are responding to the need for human interaction, fun, and relaxation. The desire for Christian ‘’fellowship” is normal and natural (1 John 1:7).

 The problem is almost always in regards to parties that involve alcohol, drugs, and/or other illegal activities. Certainly there are non-Christians who can party innocently, but a party that involves things that are illegal and against God’s plan for us must be avoided. As believers, we are to guard ourselves against temptation, remembering that “bad company corrupts good character” (1 Corinthians 15:33). Also, attending parties where sinful or illegal activities occur—even if we don’t participate in them—weakens our witness and brings shame on the name of Christ (Romans 2:24). "Everyone who confesses the name of the Lord must turn away from wickedness" (2 Timothy 2:19). 



2. There are those who might see going to parties as an opportunity to share Christ with unbelievers, and while we are to be ready with an answer for the hope within us at all times, that presupposes unbelievers at a party may be interested in the Gospel. Such an opportunity may not arise at a party where drinking, drug use, and illegal activity are occurring. Therefore, while Christians should take every opportunity to fellowship with other believers, we must be discerning about opening ourselves up to temptation or anything that would compromise our life in Christ and our witness to a watching world. At times, silence and being part of the party scene may mean that others hear and believe that we agree and support all the activities at that party by just being there. Remember that there will be other opportunities to share Christ with your friends when they will have a clearer and more sober temperament to consider claims of Christ and what you have to say.


3. The legal drinking age in Ontario is 19 years of age. In other parts of the world it can be as low as 16 years of age and in some countries there is no age limit. In some countries it’s illegal to drink at all! So drinking laws are what we would consider a social law and not a moral law. Scripture does not forbid Christians from drinking beer, wine, or any other drink containing alcohol. Alcohol is not, in and of itself, tainted by sin. It is drunkenness and addiction to alcohol that a Christian must refrain from (Ephesians 5:18; 1 Corinthians 6:12).

Based on the laws of Ontario then, Romans 13:1-7 provides guidance: “Everyone must submit himself to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established." The authorities that exist have been established by God. Consequently, he who rebels against authority and the laws of the land is rebelling against what God has instituted, and those who do so will bring judgment on themselves. This passage makes it clear that we are to obey the government and laws God places over us. God created government to establish order, punish evil, and promote justice (Genesis 9:6; 1 Corinthians 14:33; Romans 12:8).

So based on your question, the points that you made and the discussion above: Great call!

[Answered by Ray Lee, Summer Intern]

Q) How should we - as Christians - deal with breakups?

How does God want us to cope with the pain of missing him/her?

Whether you’re the heartbroken or the heartbreaker, breaking up a relationship is never easy. Breakups are a part of life but that doesn’t mean they won’t hurt! Whenever someone experiences a breakup in a relationship, it can be a significant feeling of loss depending on how long and how close you have become during your time together. When we lose someone we have invested in emotionally and spent quality time with, we go through the natural stages of grieving that loss. It’s normal to experience a sense of loneliness, emptiness and pain as a part of that grieving process. Remember that when you date, you always run the risk of rejection.

Even though the loss of a relationship is felt now in the present, over time the rest of your life will take up more and more space where that sadness now resides. The pain will gradually reduce as you reinvest your time and energy in other friends, people that matter to you, activities, education, etc. that seek to build you up for the future. This amount of time will create a new pattern and replace the old one. As you learn to move forward – one step and one thought at a time, the past will lose its pull on you. Philippians 3:13b says “Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead.” As believers, we know our ultimate hope and encouragement is in Christ [2 Thessalonians 2:16].

As you learn to move on in your life, you will come to understand more fully that life in Christ provides you with real purpose and meaning. If your feelings of emptiness, pain or rejection have to do with things other than your ex, consider talking to a trusted pastor, counselor, doctor or your parents about the way you are feeling to find out what this means and where those feelings may be coming from. Some feelings of sadness for a period of time is normal, but staying stuck in it is not.

God wants to comfort and encourage you. This is the purpose of His Spirit being within us as believers. Pour your hurt, frustration, pain and anger out to God. He is big enough to take it and turn it into good. Place your focus on God’s ability and desire to provide you with a future filled with hope and joy [Jeremiah 29:11].

The following Bible passages will be helpful for you to read, consider and meditate on through this process:

1. Learning To Get Over The Relationship: James 1:2-4; Ephesians 4:22-24; James 1:25; John 3:17; Proverbs 3:11; John 16:33; Romans 8:28; 1 Peter 1:6-7.

2. Learning To Love Again: Mark 12:30; Romans 5:10; Matthew 5:44-46; 1 Corinthians 13:4-8; John 14:15; Philippians 3:13-14

A book that I’ve recommend to others on this topic and one that I’ve found very helpful is called, “The DIRT on Breaking Up” by Hayley DiMarco and Justin Lookadoo. You can get it at your local bookstore or Chapters at a reasonable price. As well, feel free to come and see me if you like and I’ll lend you my copy!

[Answered by Ray Lee, Summer Intern]

Q: How should a Christian react to someone who is hostile towards Christianity?

By “hostile” I assume you are talking about non-Christians who make fun of, perhaps even physically persecute Christians. I believe the Bible says a lot about the hostility of non-Christians, and I’ve structured my response into three points.

1) The world is hostile.

Romans 8:7 – “The sinful mind is hostile to God. It does not submit to God's law, nor can it do so.”

This partly explains why it’s so hard sometimes to live as a Christian: we’re going against the grain. The world as a whole is hostile to God. Though some people might choose to manifest that through physical anger or verbal abuse, and others choose to just be chill and tolerant, the same heart of unbelief and hostility is at work. You might meet non-Christians who are very easy-going to talk with about spiritual matters. Maybe you know some who love to hear and debate about Christianity and the Bible; even those who don’t mind visiting church with you. But if they choose to not accept Christ, the Bible paints the picture very clearly that they have nothing in common with Christians (2 Cor 6:14).

Ultimately, the only thing that can bring someone from non-Christian to Christian is a true confession of Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior. If that isn’t there, they are hostile in one way or another to God.

2) Love the hostile non-Christians.

Now, it’s easier to love people who are nice and friendly. Those who directly oppose what you believe to your face are obviously harder to love. But the Bible still tells us to love them. Here are some Biblical principles regarding love for non-Christians.

(Matthew 28:19-20) Our responsibility is to preach the Gospel and make disciples of all nations, teaching people to obey everything God has commanded; that includes the most hostile of non-Christians. Though it is a hard assignment, we are told and empowered to do it by Christ himself. There are countless stories of the most hostile non-Christians coming to Christ through the witness of the church.

(Luke 6:27-33) "Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you … If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even 'sinners' love those who love them.” Christ is magnified when we love our enemies, because it points to a supernatural and unconventional love that the world does not naturally display.

(Matthew 10:14) “If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, shake the dust off your feet when you leave that home or town.” This verse reminds us that it’s God’s battle, not ours, to “win over” hostile non-Christians. If we have proclaimed the Gospel, and they do not listen, we should simply get up and find the next opportunity. There is no use in endless bickering that only further frustrates both parties.

3) Pray for the persecuted church.

We should be thankful that we live in North America where the hostility of non-Christians is not severe to the point of life and death. However, Christians in many countries around the world face severe hostility on a regular basis. Let’s make sure to remember them in our prayers.

[Answered by Mark Cheng, Agape Counselor]

Q: Is it a sin to skip school?

A:  Why did I put this picture up on here?  It's because Ferris Bueller's day off consists of his scamming his parents and teachers and going on a joy ride in his dad's vintage car...all the while skipping classes.

While the Bible does not specifically state that skipping school is a sin, I think it's important to note that Jesus Himself was diligent in studying the Scriptures.  He took His education very seriously.  So much so that He traveled around to not only preach, but teach the people.  His 12 Disciples did not just follow Him around, but they took it as a learning experience to listen to what their Rabbi had to say and gain wisdom through Jesus' teachings.

There are also passages in the Bible that support the civil authorities in our midst.  Your teachers and principle are considered such authority.  In Romans 13:1, it says,  "Everyone must submit himself to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God."  Which means that as they set rules that govern our attendance in classes, we should follow them.

Now, of course there are special circumstances that would cause us to break these rules.  Illness, the occasional vacation...all of these could cause us to miss some classes and skip school.  But for the most part, I believe we need to treasure our education and know that for most of the world, education is a luxury.


[answered by Pastor KJT]

Q: Is there really a religion called Satanism?

A:  The term "Satanism" can be seen in 5 different ways:

(a) Satanism can refer to those people who actually worship Satan but who do not engage in any type of criminal or ritual abuse
(b) Satanism can refer to those who worship Satan and DO engage in criminal activities and ritual abuse
(c) Satanism can refer to those who use the language of worshiping Satan but through an expression of hedonism and anti-Christian lifestyle and philosophy. 
(d) Satanism can refer to any type of witchcraft
(e) Satanism can refer to practices that some dabble in the occult and use satanic imagery as a form of rebellion against social norms

As you can see, there is a wide variety of what people consider "Satanism".  In reaction to Satanism, Christians have 2 main views.  Firstly and most importantly, the Christian worldview asserts the sovereignty of God over Satan.  Secondly, as Christians, we do not ignore the evil in the world.  We recognize that there is spiritual warfare and thus do not take lightly to the evil that persists in this world. 

For more information, you can visit Got Questions here.

[answered by Pastor KJT]

Q: I asked a new friend today if she was any religion, and she told me she was a 'half-Christian.' During SPLAT, I remember a sermon telling us that our faith with God cannot be lukewarm?

A:  The passage that you are referring to comes from Revelation 3:16, which says:

¹⁶So, because you are lukewarm—neither hot nor cold—I am about to spit you out of my mouth.

What this basically means it that that you are neither a Christian or a non-Christian and you waiver in between.  Therefore, because of that non-commital attitude, God is displeased.

We are either Christians or not.  We either align ourselves with Good or with Evil.  We either stand with God or with Satan.  There is no half way or or "half Christian".  You either are, or you are not.  The Gospel is very clear to say that if we accept Jesus Christ as our Lord and Saviour, we reap the benefits of eternal life.  We cannot half accept the Gospel or half believe it is true.  You either do, or you do not. 

In the case of your friend, she obviously has not made a decision yet.  However, I think it's important for you, as her friend, not to write her off yet!  I find that many people who say they are "half Christians" are either confused about their faith (maybe her parents are Buddhist but she goes to church) or are not ready to make that step of faith yet (she may consider herself "half Christian" because she does not think she knows enough to commit).  I think you need to reach out to her and explain to her:
1.  There is no such thing as a half-Christian and that soon, she'll have to make a decision.
2.  The Gospel.  Help her to understand the sacrifice of Jesus Christ and what that means to us as Christians. 
3.  If you cant answer all her questions, point her to her counselors or Pastors.


[answered by Pastor KJT]

Q: Christianity and Hinduism?

Since many others have written extensively on this subject, I will point you to a few good resources:

1. A side-by-side comparison of Christianity and Hinduism

2. What is Hinduism? The following is an excerpt:

It is readily seen that Hinduism is in opposition to biblical Christianity on almost every count of its belief system. Christianity has one God who is both personal and knowable (Deuteronomy 6:5; 1 Corinthians 8:6); has one set of Scriptures; teaches that God created the earth and all who live upon it (Genesis 1:1; Hebrews 11:3); believes that man is created in God's image and lives only once (Genesis 1:27; Hebrews 9:27-28); and teaches that salvation is through Jesus Christ alone (John 3:16; 6:44; 14:6; Acts 4:12). Hinduism as a religious system fails because it fails to recognize Jesus as the uniquely incarnated God-Man and Savior, the one solely sufficient source of salvation for humanity.

3. Why should a Hindu consider becoming a Christian?

Here the article cites 5 primary differences between these two religions:

a. The historical reliability of the religion: "Christianity has historically rooted characters and events within its schema which are identifiable through forensic sciences like archeology and textual criticism. Hinduism certainly has a history, but its theology, mythology, and history are so often blurred together that it becomes difficult to identify where one stops and the other begins"
b. The key historical figure/founder of the religion: "Many people in history have been wise teachers or have started religious movements. Hinduism has its share of wise teachers and earthly leaders. But Jesus stands out. His spiritual teachings are confirmed with a test that only divine power could pass, death and bodily resurrection—a fact which he prophesied and fulfilled in Himself (Matthew 16:21; 20:18-19; Mark 8:31; 1 Luke 9:22; John 20-21; 1 Corinthians 15)."

c. The reliability of the Scriptures of the religion: "In several tests the Bible surpasses the Hindu Vedas, and all other books of antiquity for that matter. One could even say that the history of the Bible is so compelling that to doubt the Bible is to doubt history itself, since it is the most historically verifiable book of all antiquity. The only book more historically verifiable than the Old Testament (the Hebrew Bible) is the New Testament."

d. Monotheism versus pantheism and polytheism.

e. The solution to sin: "[I]n Christianity we can know that we are saved. We do not have to rely on some fleeting experience, nor do we rely on our own good works or fervent meditation, nor do we put our faith in a false god whom we are trying to "believe into existence." We have a living and true God, a historically anchored faith, an abiding and testable revelation of God (Scripture), a theologically satisfying basis for ethical living, and a guaranteed home in heaven with God."

4. Read "Jesus Among Other Gods" by Ravi Zacharias - who grew up as a Hindu, but became a Christian.

Hope this helps!

[Answered by Pastor HM]

Q: Suicide to save lives?

I know this is a hypothetical question, but is suicide possible if you were going to save more lives than your own (e.g. in the new Star Trek movie, the dad dies so that 800 people are saved). Is this biblically correct?


I would not classify your example as suicide. Suicide is the self-destruction of the human body. It is a result of despair and depression, or a mental disorder such as bipolar disorder. Financial stress and bad interpersonal relationships are often causes as well. Conversely, when someone deliberately sacrifices their life for the sake of others, that is an act of heroism of the highest order. The character of George Kirk in the latest Star Trek installment sacrificed his life for his shipmates and family. He did not want to die; but he was willing to do so for a greater good, namely the survival of others. Jesus Christ himself was an example of sacrificial death. He told his disciples: "Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends" (John 15:13). Jesus did not die because he was depressed or in despair; he did it so that others may live (John 3:16-17). In summary, suicide and the sacrificial death of a hero are two completely different things in terms of motivation and outcome.

[Answered by Pastor HM]

Q: Mean friends. What can I do?

Q: Right now, there are a lot of people in my life that I can't consider as my friends anymore. Most of them aren't Christian, but would it be wrong to think that God has a reason for leading me away from them? I know that God sends certain people in our life to teach us a lesson and they leave when our journey together is over. The thing is that these aren't just a couple of friends, these are ALL of my (now former) close friends that's giving me a huge struggle in my life right now and some of them have just decided to be mean to me without reason. I know that God doesn't give us more than we can handle. What can I do?

A: Ecclesiastes 3:1-9 tells us about the seasons we have in our lives.

¹ There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under heaven:
² a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
³ a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
⁴ a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
⁵ a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain,
⁶ a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
⁷ a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
⁸ a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.

I believe it is perfectly okay that we have different friends in different stages of our lives. When we grow, our values and outlook on life change and sometimes we have to move on from people that don't hold those same views. Life long friends are hard and when we do have those, we are immensely blessed. With the situation you are currently going through, I can see that you are facing this struggle. You know it's time to move on, but it's hard, especially if they are giving you a tough time.

Unfortunately, there is not much you can do about your former friends. Matthew 18:15-17 tells us to talk to them about it, if it doesn't work, bring a 3rd party. If that doesn't work, than you'll just have to cut your losses and move on. I would say that you need to reflect on this situation and see if it's something that you did. Maybe you said something offensive which caused them to have this attitude towards you. In all situations, we do have to look to ourselves and analyze our actions. If it is the case that you did not do anything to offend your peers, than it's simply a time to move on.

One of my favourite verses to remember in what seems like hopeless situations comes from Philippians 4:13. It says, "For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength." We have to remember to rely on Christ for strength in times of need. When we don't know what to do, I'm certain our Lord does and has a greater plan for us. Keep praying...

[Answered by Pastor KJT]

Q: I need some help on getting back on track with God-- I'm finding it hard to read the Bible everyday and my relationship with Jesus seems like it's getting more distant. I want to continue in my journey and to know God more. What should I do?

A:  Serve!  Part of our responsibilities and life as a Christian is to serve in the local church.  Since you say that you are at least trying to read your Bible every day and yearn for a relationship with Jesus Christ, I think the next step for you is to be part of a leadership team that uses the gifts that God has given you to serve others and serve God.

Our faith needs to be coupled with some action.  If we always only read our Bibles and never apply the principles, than we are just stifling our growth.  Jesus didn't just preach with His mouth, but He also reached out to the poor, the widowed and the marginalized.  We need to put our faith into action and DO something as well!  

Finding your spiritual gifts may be confusing to discern, but I would suggest for you to try different things!  There are so many ministries in the church that you can be apart of.  Just pick one and give it a go.  Who knows, you may fall in love with it and find your purpose.  If you don't think it's suitable, than move on.  God created us to have a relationship with Him, but He also wants to partner up with us so that we may do His will.


[answered by Pastor KJT]

Q: How do you know when you know God closely?

A:  If you are looking for a way to measure how close you are with God, it would be rather difficult to "score" yourself.  Rather, I believe the fruit you bear in your life can testify to the maturity you have in Christ.  What I mean by this is, when people see you, do they see that you live, act and speak like Christ would?  Or...you bear no fruit in your life and your relationship with Christ does not trickle into all areas of your life?

The verse in James on faith and deeds come to mind.  Take a look at James 2:14-17

¹⁴What good is it, my brothers, if a man claims to have faith but has no deeds? Can such faith save him? ¹⁵Suppose a brother or sister is without clothes and daily food. ¹⁶If one of you says to him, "Go, I wish you well; keep warm and well fed," but does nothing about his physical needs, what good is it? ¹⁷In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead.

A person who has faith must couple it with deeds.  As in, one cannot just merely say they are Christians but act nothing like a Christian would.  They also have an inclination (through the Holy Spirit) about what God wants them to do.  This cannot be measured by the standards of men.  But one who takes their faith seriously, reading the Word, serving God on a regular basis and growing in their faith through fellowship, discipleship and community worship should help the spiritual growth of a Christian. 


[answered by Pastor KJT]

Q: For what reasons should we date?

God wants the best for us in every area of our lives. This includes all relationships and especially with boyfriends or girlfriends. We should date for fun, friendship, personality development and selection of a mate, not to be popular or for security. Don't allow peer pressure to force you into dating situations that are not appropriate. Realize that over 50% of girls and over 40% of guys never date in high school. The Bible gives us some very clear principles to guide us in making decisions about dating.

1. Guard Your Heart.
 The Bible tells us to be very careful about giving our affections, because our heart influences everything else in our life.

Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life (Proverbs 4:23).

2. You Are Known By The Company You Keep.
 We also tend to become like the company we keep. This principle is closely related to the first one and is just as important in friendships as in dating.

Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character (1 Corinthians 15:33).

3. Christians Should Only Date Other Christians.
 Although it is fine for Christians to have non-Christian friends, those who are especially close to our heart should be mature believers who are seeking to follow Christ with their lives.

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? (2 Corinthians 6:14).

4. Is It Really Love?
 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 defines real love. Ask yourself these questions:

◦ Are you patient with each other?
◦ Are you kind to each other?
◦ Are you never envious of each other?
◦ Do you never boast to or about each other?
◦ Is your relationship characterized by humility?
◦ Are you never rude to each other?
◦ Are you not self-seeking?
◦ Are you not easily angered with each other?
◦ Do you keep no record of wrongs?
◦ Are you truthful with each other?
◦ Do you protect each other?
◦ Do you trust each other?

If you answered “yes” to the above questions, then 1 Corinthians 13 says that you truly have a loving relationship. If you answered “no” to any of the above questions, then maybe you should discuss those issues with your boyfriend or girlfriend, a trusted friend or Counselor.

Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.

THANKS FOR ASKING!

[Answered by Ray Lee, Summer Intern]

Q: Pushy Christianity?

Recently my dad told me I was being too pushy when trying to tell others about how Christ has worked in my life. I also find that it seems fake when I try to fit God into my conversations with others. How can I evangelize without being pushy?

Hey! I think it’s awesome that you want to share about Christ and how He has worked in your life.

First and foremost, it is a commandment for us to spread the gospel to all corners of the world as we read in Matthew 28:19-20 to “… go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”

We share about Christ because we, who have been given eternal life through grace by faith in Jesus Christ, love Him and seek to obey Him! There are many believers who don’t feel they are properly prepared to be an effective witness for Christ. So often we don’t even share with others because we fear the “What If’s”. What if they ask me something that I don’t know the answer too? What if they get offended? What if they reject my offer? What if? What if? What if? After pondering these “What if’s” long enough most of us never get going in sharing the Good News of Christ to others. We all have struggled with these hindrances throughout each of our Christian lives but we can overcome them by doing 4 simple things. Hopefully these will help you.

1. Pray! Pray!! Pray!!! - Before any conversation, ask the Lord to break our hearts for the individual who is not saved. Far too often we can come across as a used car salesmen selling something, a little bit insincere and very pushy. This is usually because we may think that we are better than the other person and not because of a compassion-filled heart. People respond more readily to a humble offer from a loving friend then a pushy preacher. It is in prayer that our confidence is built up and our compassion is developed. So begin to pray regularly for your friend who you would like Christ to reach through you.

2. Know the Gospel - According to Acts 4:12, salvation is found in a person, Jesus Christ! The security found in Christianity is that salvation is based upon our relationship with Christ, which does not change. You see when someone places their faith in Jesus they are adopted into the family of God. God loves us so much that he sent his Son into the world to die for our sins and enable us to have a relationship with Him. Because of Christ, we can now enter into a relationship with God by trusting in Christ with all of our hearts and surrendering our lives to Him.

3. Know Your Testimony - The fact is the number one reason why people come to Christ as seen in the New Testament is because of the simple presentation of the gospel coupled with the personal testimony of someone who has become a follower of Christ – you!. Over and over again the Apostle Paul shares his testimony with those he wants to win to Christ. The question that many folks will have is “why are you a Christian?” Be ready to share your faith and know how to answer this question.

4. Start the Conversation … But Don’t Force It - The best context to share your faith with someone is when you are in a relationship with them. Don’t be afraid to take your time getting to know their heart and unique challenges. It’s been said that as we come to share Christ with others, that “Evangelism is one beggar telling another beggar where to find bread.” Yet taken one step further, we can say that the “Gospel is one beggar simply giving another beggar the bread of life.” Let’s learn to be willing to give it away!

Take a look at Jesus' encounter with the Samaritan woman in John 4 as an example of how you can witness to others. Here are some off-the-top-of-my-head ideas that may help you not be pushy with your friends. Here goes...

Don't:

1. Interrupt people's lives purely for the sake of evangelism.
2. Hand anyone a tract until you know they're interested in reading it (maybe not even then.)
3. Use tracts that look like money (ever!)
4. Wear a sandwich board, hold a sign or use a bullhorn (or shout as if you wished you had one.)
5. Use scripture with people who clearly don't care about it.
6. Wear a big, fake smile and slap people on the back and say "awesome" all the time.
7. Argue (ever!)
8. Force people to hear your message in order receive something else that they want.
9. Lose interest in a person once they've said they're not interested in the gospel
10. Separate your "real life" from your "ministry life."

Do:

1. Listen carefully and respectfully
2. Be yourself, and talk like you talk normally.
3. Be willing to admit that you don't know everything.
4. Be willing to admit that Christianity is not easy.
5. Apologize for the times that you have failed to exhibit the love of Christ.
6. Meet people's needs with no strings attached.
7. Invite people into your life.
8. Consider living among the people you're ministering to (or minister to the people you're living among.)
9. Pray earnestly for unbelievers and for your ability to be Christ to them.
10. Enjoy people's company, plain and simple.

OK. I know I'm missing a lot, so you'll have to add a few of your own. Go ahead. I know you can do it. Great Question! Thanks for asking!

[Answered by Ray Lee, Summer Intern]

Q: Transgender Issues?

I am across an interesting article the other day. It was on transgender. This article sparked many questions, considering the bible says a marriage should be between a man and a woman, but what if that person was born male, or born female? What is the biblical view on this matter? I understand from past posts that homosexuality is considered a sin, but in this case where a person cannot change who they are and are changed from one gender to another, would it be considered a sin?

Biblically, very little is said about transgender issues other than one short reference in the Old Testament forbidding cross-dressing (Deut. 22:5).  Is it a sin to change sex?  I think every case must be individually considered.  I am reluctant to judge in a blanket manner regarding this issue, because the Bible is generally silent on this issue.

The keys to considering this subject Biblically are:

1.  Humility

2.  A loving attitude toward those who consider themselves transgendered.

3.  A focus on developing a mature Christian attitude in those who consider themselves transgendered, and those who are leaders in the church.

I researched this issue online, and found a dearth of articles from a Biblical perspective.  Therefore, I turned to a trusted evangelical source, New Directions Ministries in Toronto.  Their Executive Director, Wendy Gritter, graciously agreed to write an article about transgenderism for their blog site as a result.   Here is the link to that article:

http://btgproject.blogspot.com/2010/05/hospitality-our-trans-and-intersex.html

My apologies for not providing a definitive response to this issue.  However, if there ever was an issue upon which we need to humbly admit Biblical silence, it is this complex topic!

[Answered by Pastor Fred Tham]

Q: What are the "legalities" (according to the Bible) about reading the Qu'ran as a Christian?

Before studying the Qu’ran, Christians should get to know the Bible well enough FIRST so that they become familiar with the Truth. Once you do this, you can detect errors in other belief systems that don’t line up with what the Bible teaches. If you are engaged in day-to-day interactions with Muslims, it makes sense to be familiar with what they believe. But you should also study Christian writings on the Qu’ran to get a Christian perspective of it. It may not be that easy of a book to understand, so the writings of mature Christians knowledgeable in this area will help you.

[Answered by Pastor Quang]

Q: Will Mennonites be saved?

To learn more about Mennonites (their history and beliefs), visit this Canadian website, or this Wikipedia entry. Mennonites are a Protestant Christian group established in the 16th century when Christians separated from the Roman Catholic Church. Among their core theological beliefs is that salvation comes only through faith in Jesus Christ. Therefore, the answer to your question is: Yes. Mennonites, like all Christians, will be saved because they have put their faith in the true Messiah and God: Jesus Christ.

[Answered by Pastor HM]

Q: Are both Catholics and Christians the same? Both believe in the same God, so which is more accurate?

I've written a few previous posts on catholicism, so I encourage you to read them when you have some time. This article provides a solid answer to your question. They argue Catholics and Protestant Christians differ in four major areas:

1. The sufficiency and authority of the Bible
2. The authority of the Pope
3. Salvation & justification, particularly the role of works/deeds
4. What happens when a person dies

Here is what they conclude:

While there are numerous other differences between what Catholics and Protestants believe, these four should be adequate to establish that there are serious differences between the two. In much the same way as the Judiziers (Jews who said that Gentile Christians had to obey the Old Testament law to be saved) that Paul wrote about in Galatians, Catholics, by making works necessary for one to be justified by God, end up with a completely different gospel. The differences between Catholicism and evangelical Protestants are important and significant.

It is our prayer that God will open up the eyes of anyone reading this article who is putting their faith or trust in the teachings of the Catholic Church. It is our hope that everyone will understand and believe that their “works of righteousness’ cannot justify them, or sanctify them (Isaiah 64:6). It is our prayer that all will instead put their faith solely in the fact that we are “justified as a gift by His grace through the redemption which is in Christ Jesus, whom God displayed as a propitiation in His blood through faith.” (Romans 3:24-25). God saves us, “not on the basis of deeds which we have done in righteousness, but according to His mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewing by the Holy Spirit, whom He poured out upon us richly through Jesus Christ our Savior, so that being justified by His grace we would be made heirs according to the hope of eternal life” (Titus 3:5-7).

I'd also recommend all these great articles to further your understanding on this crucial topic.

[Answered by Pastor HM]

Q: What's the difference between Christianity and other religions? People say it's "different" but I don't understand.

I've touched on this question in a previous post. The fundamental difference between Christianity and other religions is that Christianity is based upon the person and work of Jesus Christ - the only true God and savior. It is through Christ alone that a person can be saved and have a relationship with God. Let me explain. When we talk about Christianity being "different," what we really mean is that it is the exclusive (and therefore TRUE) way to God. However...

We are not saying there are no truth in other religions. Every culture & religion has some expression of God’s truth. To claim that there is no other name but Jesus doesn’t mean other religions don’t have truth; it is however to claim that those truths are to be examined in light of Jesus Christ who claims to the Truth (John 14:6). C.S. Lewis once wrote, “I believe in Christianity as I believe that the sun has risen: not only because I see it, but because by it I see everything else.” Lewis isn’t saying you can’t see other truths, but that by Jesus (who is THE Truth), we can truly understand other truths.

We are not saying we cannot learn from other religions. Christians can learn a great deal from the rest of the world. The intensity of which a Hindu seeks God can make us look like hypocrites. The discipline a Muslim can make us look very lazy. The missionary commitment of a Mormon puts us to shame.

We are not saying that Christianity is the one true religion. Christianity is not the savior; Christ is.

Christianity is claiming that Jesus Christ in the one and only savior who can deliver us from our sins. HE is the issue here. Your friends may say, “Christians are hypocrites” – but that’s not the issue. Yes, there are bad Christians (who don’t love as Jesus loved), but there are also those who follow Jesus and love and would be considered “good Christians.” In the same way, we can say there are bad and good Buddhists, or Mormons, or Muslims. This is not the issue. Christians are not claiming that following their religion gets them to heaven or saves them; Christians are claiming that Jesus does. So Jesus is really the issue; who do you think Jesus is? Why do think this way? On what basis do you believe or not believe who he says he is?

Additionally, we are saying:

Christianity is not the only religion that claims exclusivity. Your friend is wrong to say that Christianity is narrow-minded, while other religions are open-minded. All religions teach different things and therefore are exclusive by nature. Imagine a person says this: “All Chinese look alike.” What would you say about this person? Two things: (1) This person is obviously not Chinese (2) He lacks interest in Chinese people because he never looks at them very hard. It’s the same thing with religion. Let's take a look at some examples...

Muslims radically claim exclusivity - not just theologically but linguistically. They believe that the sole and sufficient miracle of Islam is the Koran. They also believe that it is only recognizable in Arabic and that any translation makes it unsacred.

Hinduism is uncompromising on 3 issues: The law of karma (law of moral cause and effect); the authority of their scriptures (Vedas) and reincarnation.

Buddhism doesn’t believe in a personal God at all

New Age followers believe they are God

Baha’ism claims cosmic embrace of all religions, which means they are excluding exclusivists!

What I’m trying to say is that every faith system is exclusive, because every time you assert something a true; you mean something contrary is false. Truth excludes its opposite. Even those that deny the exclusive nature of truth are actually making a truth claim. That's what your friends have done. By stating that Christianity is narrow-minded, and implying they are open-minded, they have made an exclusive truth claim!

Christianity is actually the most inclusive of all faith systems. Other religions assume our ability to secure God's favor & love by doing the right things. What is the implication here? You can be a "good person" if you follow certain rules. Listen to what Dr. Tim Keller says (read this carefully!):

"The universal religion of humankind is: We develop a good record and give it to God, and then he owes us. The gospel is: God develops a good record and gives it to us, then we owe him (Rom. 1:17). In short, to say a good person, not just Christians, can find God is to say good works are enough to find God. So the apparently inclusive approach is really quite exclusive. It says, 'The good people can find God, and the bad people do not.' The gospel says, 'The people who know they aren't good can find God, and the people who think they are good do not.' So both approaches are exclusive, but the gospel's is the more inclusive exclusivity. It says joyfully, 'It doesn't matter who you are or what you've done. It doesn't matter if you've been at the gates of hell. You can be welcomed and embraced fully and instantly through Christ.' "

I would also encourage you to read the following article. Here, the authors point out four things that make Christianity different and unique compared to all other religions:

1. All other religions exhort man to reach up to God and grasp hold of Him through their own efforts. Christianity is the only religion where God reaches down to man.
2. Other religions are systems of do’s and don’ts to appease God; whereas Christianity is a relationship with God.
3. Christianity looks to the Bible as the singular source of Truth.
4. Christianity is based upon truly the most unique event in all of human history—the Resurrection.

[Answered by Pastor HM]

Q: What does this passage mean by worshipping "in spirit and in truth" (John 4:23-24)?

Jesus said that true worship is characterized by two things:

1) It is in spirit or from the heart, in other words it is sincere.

2) It is in truth, that is it is according to the dictates of the Word of God, which is the TRUTH (Jn. 17:17).

The context of this passage was a Samaritan Woman who was asking Jesus basically which location was best to worship God in? Jesus responded by saying that it’s not about a traditional location, but it is about worshipping with the right SPIRIT (check out Romans 12:1) as well as the right UNDERSTANDING (Truth embodied in following Jesus in the Bible).

For more in depth study on this topic please check out this article.

[Answered by Pastor Shu-Ling]

Q: In Romans 12:1, what does Paul mean what he says "in view of God's mercy" and "renewing the mind"?

Also, how do we test & approve what God's will is?

When Paul writes about God’s mercy, he is clearly alluding to the sacrifice of His Son, Jesus, on the cross and His saving grace. He is saying that we can only worship God because of His MERCY through Jesus’ saving action in our lives. This is so no one can boast in their own actions but only in God alone.

In the context of this passage, the way we can “test and approve what God’s will is” is through a transformed and renewed mind. Now what does that encompass? It encompasses a mind that is transformed by Christ. When we confess our sins to Jesus, declare Him as Lord, and follow Him, the pattern of our lives will start to change from how society and culture tells us to live. We will start filtering our thoughts and minds through the Word of God and how Jesus would want us to live (hopefully this is not too cheesy, but that is the point of WWJD – what would Jesus do?)

So when we start to follow Christ in all that we do, we will start to understand the good and perfect will of God. We will know what God wants us to do in our lives (our PURPOSE) and how to live with others (showing the grace and mercy He has given us).

[Answered by Pastor Shu-Ling]

Q: How does God want me to see Him?

God has chosen to reveal Himself through His Son Jesus Christ, who is the “image of the invisible God” (Colossians 1:15). Therefore, we are to view Jesus as THE example of who God is. As God has revealed Himself throughout His word, His ultimate revelation is through the life of Jesus Christ His Son. We are to view God through His Word become flesh (a Man) as it says in John 1.

[Answered by Pastor Shu-Ling]

Q: How do you worship God through actions?

Worshipping God through actions, movement or physical expressions are evident all over the bible. Although there is no clear biblical support “mandating” these actions, we can still, however, see that the many people in the bible expressed themselves in outward movements (actions) in responsive worship to God.

Here are some examples (specifically in the book of Psalms) of the actions of people worshiping God:

1. Psalm 95:6 – Come, let us bow down in worship (Symbol of Humility)
2. Psalm 63:4 – In your name I will lift up my hands (Hand gestures for the attitude of the heart)
3. Psalm 33:2-3 - Play skillfully on the lyre (Worshipping through playing music instruments)
4. Psalm 47:1 – Clap your hands, all you people! Shout to God with loud songs of joy! (clap hands while singing songs of joy in God)
5. Psalm 66:1 – Shout to God with joy, sing the glory of his name (Spontaneous joy and gladness because of the Creator and Redeemer)

Lastly, I will leave you with this thought about “movement” from the Global Worship Movement which I have found helpful.

Movement – this word has two implications;

1) Movement in regards to a physical participation in worship --we have a passion to inspire and lead everyday people in the integration of movement into worship and to embody Romans 12:1 


2) Movement in regards to a move of God --we have a passion to be used by God in His acts of redemption and restoration of His creation throughout the world

[Answered by Pastor Shu-Ling, Worship Ministry]

Q: Do Aborted Fetuses Go to Heaven?

I have reservations in answering this question. The truth is, I am, at best, guardedly optimistic (though more so for the aborted children of Christians [whether because of elective abortion or miscarriage] than of non-Christians; see Acts 2:38–39; 1 Corinthians 7:14).

In the end, the most Biblical and responsible answer is to be agnostic on the matter.

Let’s start with some foundational Biblical presuppositions.

1. The doctrine of original sin says every human being, from conception, is legally guilty of sin. (David alludes to his own prenatal guilt in Psalm 51:5.)

2. The general way that people come to faith is through the preaching of the word of Christ (Romans 10:17).

3. The unborn are human beings (see my previous posts), which means they have an eternal destiny: a resurrection of the body either to eternal glory or eternal wrath (John 5:28–29; Acts 24:15). (Note: this resurrection doesn’t happen at death, either for the aborted fetus or for any of us. Resurrection happens when Jesus returns. Resurrection should also not be equated with “heaven,” but that’s the subject for another post.)

We may say of the unborn, then: (1) they are guilty of sin; (2) they haven’t come to faith (at least, in the usual manner); and (3) they have an eternal destiny. The fate of individuals who are guilty of (1) and (2) is, according to the New Testament, hell. It must be admitted that the unborn are guilty of unrepentant sin.

However, we should also concede that it is possible for God to save the unborn (and very young, infant children) in an atypical way. (He’s God!) Both the fetal Jesus and the fetal John the Baptist are examples of the Spirit dwelling in the unborn (Luke 1:39–45). King David seems to expect to join his dead infant son when he, himself, dies (2 Samuel 12:23); a possible indication of the view that the unborn (and those who do not have the capacity for faith) will be saved in the end.

John Piper holds this view. He believes “God has a way to cover [the sins of those who don’t have the capacity for faith, such as babies and the profoundly mentally disabled].” He appeals to Romans 1:19–20. You can read his argument here. I must confess that I am not entirely convinced, though I dearly hope that he is right.

It does bears noting that the Bible’s silence on this matter is one for which we should be thankful. Imagine, for instance, if we had chapter and verse clearly stating that all children who die before they reach the age of three will be resurrected to eternal life. How many babies, infants, and toddlers would be killed by well-meaning parents to secure their eternal destiny?

Ultimately, I don’t believe we can say with complete certainty what happens to aborted fetuses and must be content to leave things in the hands of our just and merciful God.

[Answered by Dr. Stephen Tu]

Q: Who sins in abortion, the woman having the abortion or the doctor performing it?

The answer, of course, is both. Both the mother who wants, permits, and approves of the killing of her child, and the doctor who kills the baby are guilty. Both need to repent. But the net of guilt is cast wider than simply the mother and physician.

The boyfriend who prods his girlfriend to kill their unborn child sins. The parent who’d rather not deal with the stares and gossip and drives her daughter to the abortion clinic sins. The person who actively participates in a culture that abdicates parental responsibility and devalues prenatal life by promoting individual privacy at the expense of the unborn sins. In fact, I’d argue that each of us by simply paying taxes in our province that then go to government-funded health care that pays for abortions sins. It should crush us that being a tax-paying resident or citizen of Canada means we pay for the legal killing of our country’s children.

In the end, all of us need to repent of our complicity in abortion.

[Answered by Dr. Stephen Tu, Trinity Pacific Church, Vancouver]

Why does God allow events such as abduction, child abuse, terrorists, etc. happen?

Why doesn't he do anything about it? Sometimes I'm afraid I get kidnapped and terrible things might happen. But I want to know if God will help me during that time. Sorry, this question is kind of oddly worded but I just want to know if God is really there during those crucial times in our lives.

Author Josh McDowell answers your question well. Read his entire answer here. Events such as abduction, child abuse and terrorism happen because of the sinfulness of man:

...The Scriptures make it plain that God did not create the world in the state in which it is now, but evil came as a result of the selfishness of man. The Bible says that God is a God of love and He desired to create a person and eventually a race that would love Him. But genuine love cannot exist unless freely given through free choice and will, and thus man was given the choice to accept God's love or to reject it. This choice made the possibility of evil become very real. When Adam and Eve disobeyed God, they did not choose something God created, but, by. their choice, they brought evil into the world. God is neither evil nor did He create evil. Man brought evil upon himself by selfishly choosing his own way apart from God's way. 


Because of the Fall, the world now is abnormal. Things are not in the state that they should be in. Man, as a result of the Fall, has been separated from God. Nature is not always kind to man and the animal world can also be his enemy. There is conflict between man and his fellowman. None of these conditions were true before the Fall. Any solution that might be given to the problems mankind faces must take into consideration that the world as it stands now is not normal.

Why doesn't he do anything about it? You are falsely assuming that God does not do anything about it. Let me explain. God did do something about it in the person & work of Jesus Christ. Jesus came to take away the sin of the world by suffering for our sin, in our place (consider the fact that the suffering Jesus endured was the result of the sin, cruelty and hatred of man). Because of what Jesus did, we have an answer to our suffering: One day Jesus will give us new resurrected bodies (Philippians 3:20-21) that will be immune to suffering and sin. 

Second, God is doing something about it through his followers. McDowell puts it this way:

Christians have a justification for fighting evil, immorality and corruption. The world was not designed with evil in mind and the believer has a real basis for fighting social ills. He is not following the belief that whatever is, is right. The Christian does not condone wrongdoing by claiming it is God's world, neither does he assume that everything that happens is agreed to by God. God does not desire evil nor does he ever condone it. He hates evil, and the Christian also is not only to despise evil, he is obligated to do something about it. Even though sin is real, it is not something that the believer accepts as the way things ought to be. By identifying with Jesus, the believer has a duty to call things wrong that are wrong and to speak out when evil is overtaking good. The Christian is not fighting against God by fighting social problems. Natural disasters, crime, and mental retardation should not be the accepted order of things, because they were never meant to be and they will not be in God's future kingdom.

Christians are God's hands and feet to a hurting world. God is doing something about suffering through us. 

Third, God is doing something "behind the scenes." His ways are higher than our ways (Isaiah 55:8), so even if we do not understand why he allows suffering to happen or why he does not immediately cure suffering, we must trust in Him. GotQuestions states three reasons.

First, He uses pain and suffering to draw us to Himself so that we will cling to Him. Jesus said, “In the world you shall have tribulation” (John 16:33). Trials and distress are not something unusual in life; they are part of what it means to be human in a fallen world. In Christ we have an anchor that holds fast in all the storms of life, but if we never sail into those storms, how would we know that? It is in times of despair and sorrow that we reach out to Him, and, if we are His children, we always find Him there waiting to comfort and uphold us through it all. In this way, He proves His faithfulness to us and ensures that we will stay close to Him. An added benefit is that as we experience God’s comfort through trials, we are then able to comfort others in the same way (2 Corinthians 1:4).

Second, He proves to us that our faith is real through the suffering and pain that are inevitable in this life. How we respond to suffering is determined by the genuineness of our faith. Those with faith truly from God, “the author and finisher of our faith” (Hebrews 12:2), will not be crushed by suffering, but will come through the trial with their faith intact, having been “proven through fire” so that it “might be found to praise and honor and glory at the revelation of Jesus Christ” (1 Peter 1:7). Those are the ones who do not shake their fists at God or question His goodness, but instead “count it all joy” (James 1:2), knowing that trials prove that they are truly the children of God. “Blessed is the man who endures temptation, because having been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him” (James 1:12).

Finally, God uses suffering to take our eyes off this world and put them on the next. The Bible continually exhorts us to not get caught up in the things of this world, but to look forward to the world to come. This world and all that is in it will pass away, but the kingdom of God is eternal. Jesus said, “My kingdom is not of this world” (John 18:36), and those who would follow Him must not see the things of this life, both good and bad, as the end of the story. Even the sufferings we endure and which seem so terrible “are not worthy to be compared with the coming glory to be revealed in us” (Romans 8:18).

Summarily, I would say this: Don't be afraid friend. God is always with you, even in your suffering. It is natural to cry out to God when you are suffering (and if he answers in a tangible way, praise Him!). However, if he does not answer immediately or in the way you want, praise Him anyway! God is using the suffering in a way to shape your character (remember your character is what you take with you in the next life; not your comfort) for your own goodness and for his glory. He may also be allowing suffering to happen to you so that you can understand the suffering of another person and bless them.

[Answered by Pastor HM]

I'd recommend you get a copy of C.S. Lewis' book, The Problem of Pain. It will help you answer some of you questions.

Q: I have a friend who recently became a Christian. What steps should she take now? I have invited her to come, but she has other things to do during fellowship times and Sunday mornings. So as much as she wants to come, she cannot. Any advice?

A:  Firstly, we rejoice in the fact that your friend has become a Christian!  What a wonderful and exciting time this is for you to witness a transformation and a soul won for God!

Secondly, what you are facing right now is the issue of discipleship.  When we become a Christian, we can consider that the "conversion".  But after the conversion, must come the discipleship part.  This is the part where a person grows in their faith through reading God's Word, being part of a community and having accountability through their brothers and sisters.

It is very difficult for a new Christian to know what to do after they accept Christ.  There are a lot of unknowns; we are essentially starting a new life!  That's why the discipleship process is so important - it directs and guides them to grow in their faith.

For your friend, I suggest to utilize the power of the Internet!  Go to splat.rhccc.ca to listen to the sermons we preach at SPLAT and Doxa.  Our Daily Bread (odb.org) has good daily devotions that may help your friend with their faith and understand the Scriptures.  Encourage your friend to read through the Bible.  A good one is this one from Mars Hill.


In addition to this, minister to her outside of church times.  Dedicate one lunch a week to discuss a topic (Christian dating, baptism, specific passages are all engaging topics). Check your school to see if they have a Christian fellowship she can attend on a weekday.  Most high schools and some elementary school around the area have one.

Lastly, keep her in prayer.  It is only through the Holy Spirit that your friend came to know God and only through the Spirit will she continue her journey as a Christian.  Pray for her often and commit her to the Lord.


[answered by Pastor KJT]

Q: Is it okay for a confirmed Catholic to partake in Holy Communion in a Christian church?

If I'm a confirmed Catholic, is it bad to go to Christian church?

Hi friend. It seems you have two questions, so I'll answer them separately. To be clear, when you refer to the "Christian church," what you really mean is the Protestant church. Read about the differences in this previous post.

1. If I'm a confirmed Catholic, is it bad to go to Christian church?

It is not bad at all. At RHCCC, people of all faith backgrounds are welcome. However, I do challenge you to take a deep look into the core beliefs of both churches. There are major differences between what Protestants believe and what Catholics believe. Visit this website for dozens of articles that will be helpful for you.

For instance, consider the most crucial issue of salvation. If you genuinely hold to OFFICIAL Roman Catholic doctrine and believe you can enter God's kingdom (at least partly) on your own merit, you will be at odds with what Protestants believe. Sooner or later, you must make up your mind and settle on the belief system of one church. How do you know which to settle on? Always go back to Scripture. What does the Bible say? Regarding salvation, Romans 3:24-25 tells us that we are “justified as a gift by His grace through the redemption which is in Christ Jesus, whom God displayed as a propitiation in His blood through faith." Good works arise from faith in Christ and thus are an indication that one is truly saved. But in and of themselves, they do not justify or save us.

I hope you can see whether this is going. There are so many divisions between Protestants and Catholics that you cannot embrace both theological systems. I highly encourage you to read this article - I believe it will help in your faith journey. Also read this one.

2. Is it okay for a confirmed Catholic to partake in Holy Communion in a Christian church?

The purpose of communion is to remember the sacrificial death of Christ (N.B. This may contradict what you've been taught at a Catholic church. Read this post for further information). Here is an excerpt:

The Scriptures declare that the Lord's Supper is a memorial to the body and blood of Christ (Luke 22:19; 1 Corinthians 11:24-25), not the actual consumption of His physical body and blood. When Jesus was speaking in John chapter 6, Jesus had not yet had the Last Supper with His disciples, in which He instituted the Lord’s Supper. To read the Lord’s Supper / Christian Communion back into John chapter 6 is unwarranted. For a more complete discussion of these issues, please read our article on the Holy Eucharist.

The most serious reason transubstantiation should be rejected is because it is viewed by the Roman Catholic Church as a "re-sacrifice" of Jesus Christ for our sins, or as a “re-offering / re-presentation” of His sacrifice. This is directly in contradiction to what Scripture says, that Jesus died "once for all" and does not need to be sacrificed again (Hebrews 10:10; 1 Peter 3:18). Hebrews 7:27 declares, "Unlike the other high priests, He (Jesus) does not need to offer sacrifices day after day, first for his own sins, and then for the sins of the people. He sacrificed for their sins ONCE for all when He offered Himself."

Summarily, you may take the communion if you are a Christ-follower, even within a Protestant church. However, when you do take it, please know that we do not practice transubstantiation. We hold to memorial view in which we remember and celebrate the sacrificial death of Jesus Christ.

Hope this helps.

[Answered by Pastor HM]