I know that being a homosexual is a sin, but what I can do to refrain myself from homosexuality or committing that sin?
Thank you for your honesty. The Ask Us Blog generates a lot of questions about this one topic of homosexuality. In the past, I've quoted someone like Brian Pengelly; a Christian man who is homosexual, yet chooses to live in a heterosexual relationship with his wife. He does not claim it is easy - but with prayer, accountability and faith, Brian leads a God-honoring life by choice. Struggling with homosexuality is not easy nor simple (as this article states), but with Christ, it is possible as we have new power over temptation and sin.
Practically, I would suggest that you deal with this temptation the way you would deal with other temptations:
(1) Pray continually - asking God for wisdom, strength, patience and courage. Relying on God first is the key!
(2) Seek trusted friends and mentors that will keep you accountable. Check out this site for some resources and testimonies by Christians struggling with this very issue.
(3) Don't put yourself in a place or position to be tempted. This means avoiding certain relationships; media and places that will encourage sinful ideas and thinking.
(4) Be patient and humble [Just because you are a Christian doesn't mean these temptations will go away immediately; some struggle their entire lifetime with this issue, but choose to refrain from giving in and thus lead God-honoring lives].
(5) Remind yourself of how much God loves you. Whatever temptation and weakness you have, God doesn't accept you on the basis of that. He accepts you because of what Jesus did for you, on the cross.
Friend, I'm glad you wrote. You're not alone. Over the course of my ministry, I've talked to dozens of teenagers struggling with sexual issues. Many are Christians who continue to live by faith and try their best - with God's help - to lead Christ-centered lives such as yourself.
[Answered by Pastor HM]
