A: I would break this question down into 2 categories. (a), realizing the general will of God for Christians and (b), God's specific will of God for our specific lives.
Granted that you have already accepted Christ in your life and have a deepening relationship with Jesus, God's general will for all Christians is to "Be holy because I, the LORD your God, am holy" (Leviticus 19:2). As the example has been given to us through Jesus Christ, we are to live our lives modeled after Him. God asks us to be set apart, different than the world and live a life that is pleasing to Him (read Matthew 5:13-16). Our lives are supposed to be different...away from the darkness, full of integrity and holiness. This is God's general will for us.
The specific will that God has for each individual lives is unique. God always equips us with whatever we need to do His will. That being said, I would suggest for you to look into your life and see what spiritual gifts God has gifted you with. Most likely, they will align with your purpose (Romans 12:6).
In the church setting, try different areas of ministry and see which ones you fall in love with and which you feel you are not gifted. This is a practical way to discern God's will. Of course, always keep this in prayer, ASK God to show you His way. LISTEN to the Holy Spirit as it will guide you into making wise decisions (John 16:13). And finally, TRUST that God will never lead you astray and FOLLOW Him obediently (Proverbs 3:5-6).
[answered by Pastor KJT]
